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Handgemacht – Folge 22: Die große Leere und große Pläne

April 24, 2012 by Susanne 3 Comments

http://creativemother.de/audio/Handgemacht22.mp3

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Überraschung!! Schon wieder eine neue Folge. Letzten Donnerstag aufgenommen, erst heute hochgeladen:

Gestrickt habe ich:

  • Miraculous Whisper
  • Skew

Gesponnen habe ich:

  • orange-melierte Merino-Seide für Socken auf der Bosworth Featherweight
  • rote Seide auf der türkischen Spindle von IST Crafts

Außerdem erwähnt wurde:

  • der Podcast Handmade Fantasy
  • die urbane Spinnstube
  • Haarewaschen ohne Shampoo: ein Blogpost auf deutsch, eine Erklärung, wie man das mit hartem Wasser macht auf englisch und ein hervorragender Überblick auf englisch bei Crunchy Betty (ich kann das ganze Blog nur wärmstens empfehlen
  • das Wollfest in Backnang
  • das Wollfest auf Ravelry
  • Monikas Blog
  • Spinning Martha
  • Knitting Spiro
  • alle erwähnten Aussteller vom Backnanger Wollfest findet ihr hier

Und zum Thema:

  • Melia
  • Wheatgrass Truffle Cardigan (immer merke ich mir den Namen falsch)
  • Featherweight Cardigan
  • The Painted Tiger
  • Knit, Swirl! von Sandra McIver und das Modell, das ich machen will, ist Shades of Grey
  • The Enchanted Sole

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And then my son wanted to get on a diet

April 18, 2012 by Susanne 3 Comments

To lose weight. I was horrified.

For a few weeks now he has been talking about the fact that he has become “fat”. Now this is the boy who used to be on the skinny side. He had the usual stages of childhood, growing taller, then broader, then taller, and lately quite a bit broader. Add to it his fondness of sweets, and tendency to spend all his time in front of screens or books, well, yes, he has grown a little protruding tummy, but nothing major in my eyes.

After talking for a while we found that it was my mother-in-law who kept telling him he had been growing fat, and needed losing weight. Now, even if he were obese, which he isn’t I wouldn’t want him to start dieting.

The only thing a diet is pretty certain to make you is fat in the long run. Especially with people like my son and me. We are contrary. If anyone tells us what we’re allowed to eat or not, even if it is ourselves we’re bound to become all stubborn, and eat even more of the things we shouldn’t.

Now, you have to know that my mother-in-law is a person who still thought I was as slim as the day we met even after I had gained 20 kilos in the meantime. (That’s 44 pounds for those of you who don’t use metric.) She didn’t even realized that I had grown quite a bit bigger.

Now this woman is telling my son that he is fat. Why’s that?

With a bit of detective work we finally got it. There were two factors to it:

First, my son these days often has these massive eating binges at mealtimes. You know how sometimes even little children eat more than you? He sometimes does that. It doesn’t bother me because he doesn’t do it all the time, and for every time he eats like a starving teenager there’s another time when he doesn’t eat much at all. To me that’s a sign that he is in touch with his body’s need. Now my mother-in-law is of a generation that believes in portion control. She fixes dinner (with ridiculously small portions for a growing boy), and if he says he’s still hungry she thinks he can’t really be because there’s no dinner left.

Second, my son has this belly. His jeans have grown a bit too tight, and so his belly is sticking out. There are several things to this. Yes, he has become a bit stockier than before, and second he doesn’t really have the abs to have a firm belly. Which isn’t unsurprising in a boy his age.

I hope that the thing I’m telling him makes a difference. The thing is, I have seen this many times before with students. Once they are approaching their tenth birthday, some a little earlier, some a little later, all of a sudden children come up to me saying, “I need to lose weight, I’m fat.” And then they tell me that they are already weighing [insert some number between 35 and 40 kilos here], and that their friends are weighing less than that.

And then I tell them the things I always tell: Children grow in spurts. After every time they’re getting taller there is usually a time when they get stockier, and maybe even a bit chubby. Especially at this time when their bodies are almost getting ready for puberty. Just look at children between 9 and 12 and you can see it. A lot of them are becoming rounder, and heavier, and almost denser at that age. And then, a few years later they transform in front of your eyes, going from a child to a teenager.

If they start dieting at an age that young it won’t make them better looking, healthier, or even slimmer. Chances are they probably end up fatter, unhealthier, and screwed up.

I really hate it that this world is tending to a beauty standard that is unobtainable for most of us. I hate it that being a certain body size, and shape has been become the one indicator for being attractive, happy, and healthy. And I really, really hate it that my beautiful son, this charming, intelligent, witty, and funny 9 1/2 year-old thinks he’s ugly and fat.

Yes, I wish I were slimmer too. I have become pretty fat myself in the past few years. I would like to fit into size 10 pants, really. But I can also tell you that there are many, many things in the world worse than being fat. And that being fat does not equal being stupid, or a loser, or unlovable, or even unattractive. Yes, advertising and magazines are telling us so. But every single one of them wants us to feel bad so they can better sell us things, and ideas. They don’t want us to be happy the way we are because happy people don’t buy as much.

So I myself have been concentrating on becoming as strong, and fit, and healthy, and happy as I possibly can. And to find clothes that fit the body I have instead of pining for the size 10 jeans.

For my son we have talked, and keep talking. And I will have a stern talk with my mother-in-law later. And we are trying to help him lose the “have to have sweets after every meal”-habit that my mother-in-law installed, and help him to go outside and run around a little more. Because those are good things regardless of how big or small someone is.

I’m really, really pissed, I don’t know if you can tell. And I’m also sending you to the “Dances with Fat“-blog again, and to the concept of health at every size because obviously it needs repeating.

Filed Under: changing habits, parenting, weight loss

Handgemacht – Folge 21: Ordnungshüter und kleine Helfer

April 13, 2012 by Susanne 3 Comments

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Und hier nach langem Warten mal wieder eine Folge:

Stricken:

  • Hopefully Enough Yard fertig gesponnen, gestrickt und gespannt, ich muss nur noch den Reißverschluss einsetzen. Ich hoffe, das schaffe ich nächste Woche.
  • Fast Stings sind fertig und werden schon fleißig getragen
  • Star Trek potholders fertig! Sind in Gebrauch und wir sind ganz begeistert:star trek potholders
  • Somewhat Turkish fertig! Der zweite Socken muss noch gewaschen werden:meadow abstract
  • Flight Path mystery fertig gesponnen und gestrickt. Ich bin sehr zufrieden, ob ich die Mütze tragen werde, ist eine andere Sache. Dies Designerin heißt Mary Scott Huff
  • washcloth das Stricken ging natürlich ganz schnell und er ist auch schon in ständigem Gebrauch:BW Waschlappen
  • Myrte fertig gestrickt
  • Miraculous Whisper aus einem Lace Zauberball, den ich netterweise geschenkt bekommen habe
  • neues Paar Skew, noch nicht angefangen, aber in Planung.meilenweit pink

Weben:

  • der Gurt für den Gurtwebrahmen ist fertig, hier der unfertige Gurt, an dem man aber gut sehen kann, wie der Webrahmen funktioniertbackstrap2
  • ich habe einen neuen Gurt mit Streifen angefangen, völlig zweckfrei.
  • und ich habe mir zwei Gatterkämme für den Gurtwebrahmen gekauft und kürzere Schiffchen, sie aber noch nicht ausprobiert

Spinnen:

  • Garn für Flight Path Mystery KAL: flightpathyarn
  • Indian Summer fertig gesponnen (dieses Bild zeigt nicht das fertige Garn, sondern dass, was am 1. April noch zu spinnen war)!indian summer
  • orange-melierte Merino-Seide für Socken auf der Bosworth Featherweight weitergesponnenspinning in cafe
  • Baumwolle auf der Takli.cotton challenge
  • rote Seide auf der türkischen Spindle von IST Crafts

Außerdem erwähnt:

  • Anleitung zum Einsetzen eines Reißverschlusses in eine Strickjacke: Grumperina und auf deutsch von Judith
  • Pullover, der aussieht wie Unterwäsche und mit T anfängt: Thermal
  • Spin Knit Winter 2011 und Spinning Luxury Fibers
  • Zwei neue Spindeln habe ich gekauft, eine unterstütze von Matthes mit Schälchen und eine russische aus Purpleheart von IST Crafts. Beide habe ich bis jetzt nur kurz angesponnen, mit Kamel und Kaschmir.

Filed Under: crafts, Podcast

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