Comments on: You must release jelly donuts

By: crazymumma

crazymumma — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 00:31:19 +0000

I do the housework. But i also have a few hours per day that are mine all mine and he does not.

I say split the work, and throw out all the stuff you want to eat when you least should.

By: Emmy

Emmy — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:40:50 +0000

I know what that feels like.. I am a highly creative person like you and it is so easy to lose track of time. This is what I do to try and keep housework at bay.

I wake up when H is getting ready to go to work and throw laundry into the washer. I take Anna to school and when I return laundry is done and I hang it up. I run that stupid sweeper over the house while my coffee is brewing and then I plop down at my computer and stay there for the next three hours writing and researching…

i know you have to teach and you have lots of hobbies.. i used to have lots of hobbies too.. but I found myself spending more time on my hobbies than on my writing or artwork, and that made me unhappy…

Cleaning is not something that has a completion date.. that is my problem… I don’t see any reward to cleaning.. there is no masterpiece at the end.. I just had to make it a routine like brushing my teeth.. I guess that is what flylady tries to make us realize… do a little bit everyday without thinking about it… that way it is not a chore.. it isn’t a job.. it is just in the same category as brushing our teeth…

By: jen

jen — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 17:36:08 +0000

hire. a. cleaner.

By: Susanne

Susanne — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 07:36:30 +0000

Have you ever tried FlyLady? Her system is really helpful: http://www.flylady.net

By: hele

hele — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 07:24:06 +0000

Sigh. I’m the one doing most of the housework. And I have not been able to inspire F with either punishment or reward so my advice will probably not work too well

What helps me cope with F better is knowing that he is trying his best and him pointing out areas in which he does more than me.

By: meno

meno — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 23:59:11 +0000

This is so stupid i hate to tell you, but i am also a crappy housewife. So when i really don’t want to do something, i set a timer for 5 minutes. I can do anything for 5 minutes, right?

When the timer goes off, i can quit if i want, but i’m usually only about 3 minutes from making a big dent, so i usually keep going.

By: joanna

joanna — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:21:51 +0000

we talked, i thenshouted (i have red hair i cant help it) my husband doesnt do anything unless he is asked to do it which drives me mad, although most of the time he is out of the country so i suppose the clutter is mostly down to me howver we now have cleaners that come once a week. It doesnt stop the mess from forming, or the clutter from building but i know that once a week my house will be clean and i feel more able to sit and do things. it also puts me in a better position to see the “hot spots” and sort them out rather then thinking – i should be cleaning hte bathroom.

I have put on half a stone over the summer and am not happy. I also like haribo sweets but sugar turns to fat unfortunately

By: de

de — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 16:02:27 +0000

It’s not a bad idea to get a housekeeper, even once a month.

Streamlining is what comes to my mind. Maybe you need to declutter again.

Can’t say much about the dieting. I was going along fairly well and then hit a low hormonal patch and it’s been terrible. Can’t even guess what tomorrow’s weigh in will reveal.

By: Beck

Beck — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:50:19 +0000

I struggled with this for a long time. What was the “fair” division? How did I handle housework when I never wanted to do it? And then one day, I had a revelation – my husband works MORE than full-time so I don’t have to. Me getting to be home is a priviledge, and it is only fair that I do the housework.

Oh.

That wasn’t a fun thing to suddenly know. My husband still helps out – we fold the laundry together several nights a week, he makes all of the beds (because he disapproves of my lax bed-making methods), he loads the dishwasher after supper, but the rest of it is all me. And I also have this horrible motto: It doesn’t matter if you feel like doing it, it still has to be done. SO now I get up and unload the dishwasher and sullenly throw the breakfast dishes in and do the laundry and mop the kitchen floor, lather rinse repeat. And the funny thing is that our house is MUCH happier now that I’ve stopped waiting for that once a year housecleaning feeling to hit me.

By: Mad Hatter

Mad Hatter — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:43:01 +0000

I almost wrote a post last week about how we manage the division of labour in our house. I thought it would be funny and informative but as I wrote it, I realized that it sounded petty and resentful–which I am not b/c my husband also does more than his fair share of the housework.

By: lilalia

lilalia — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 12:01:30 +0000

In our household, my husband, like yours, does the herculean portion of the chores. We also have come up with a better alternative than paying for a marriage counselor; we pay someone to come and clean the apartment once a week. The same angel has been coming to our place for the last 13 years. I have been known to take on a side job just so I can afford her services. Some think this preposterous, but it makes sense to me because not only am I a poor housewife, I am a grumpy ill-humoured one. If I go and work in some menial labour job, I can keep my sense of humour and can lighten up the days of my colleagues. I don’t have any aversion to work, just to doing work I dislike.