Comments on: Not fitting in

By: jen

jen — Tue, 06 May 2008 20:43:42 +0000

somehow i missed this post earlier…i just wanted to say i think you fit in better than most. because you know who you are and live with intention.

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 04 May 2008 00:42:30 +0000

I could never knit more than a bookmark or a scarf, anything clearly a rectangle. As to the feeling of not fitting in…I’m EXACTLY the same. (Just kidding.) I think there are more of us out there than you or I think, though. I met an elderly woman the other day when I was working and I was suggesting places to visit. She kept saying, “I keep to myself, I really do.” I wanted to hug her and say, “I understand. I’m one of you.” And then slowly back away…(I found you via Crazymumma’s site from a year ago or so.)

By: hele

hele — Fri, 02 May 2008 19:02:46 +0000

Me and Florian often discuss this very same thing. How we always felt like outsiders looking on while people run around chasing goals that seemed, well somewhat ridiculous and not that attainable. For example, consistently finding a party that suddenly makes life seem worthwhile.

By: crazymumma

crazymumma — Fri, 02 May 2008 03:05:21 +0000

I was talking to my girls today about the importance of just being yourself, not trying to please and make friends because they felt they had to.

By: meno

meno — Fri, 02 May 2008 02:56:03 +0000

Where are all the people who feel like they did fit in? Do you know any? I guess i haven’t asked everyone i know, but it sure seems like a lot of us bloggers have feelings similar to yours.

i LOVE that orange for the shawl/

By: De

De — Thu, 01 May 2008 13:54:39 +0000

Here’s to not fitting in and not letting that silence you. Be bold.

and Happy Anniversary.

By: joanna

joanna — Thu, 01 May 2008 13:25:14 +0000

Define normal I luckily live in a small english village where all our differences are accepted. I am thought of as slightly strange but it is regarded as a good thing. I have only seen differences as good things and have amde it a mission to stand out of hte crowd. I hope my children will feel the same too. I have a friend who has a nervous breakdown at the thought of havig her eyes checked and yet doesnt bat an eyelid when her children have a temperature of 104/5. One will not drive on the motorway and at least a handful of women my age cannot drive at all. one person always shouts out her food is all organic and doesnt seem to mind that it is flown all the way from peru (that annoys me). Talks about saving the planet and then drives ANSOLUTELY EVERYWHERE.

By: deike

deike — Thu, 01 May 2008 13:04:16 +0000

So what’s wrong about not fitting in? Do you have to fit in, and be “normal” and like everyone else? That would make the world really, really boring.
I stopped wondering about the strange opinions and lifestyles of other people when I was 16, and just assumed their education was a bit different from my own.

(That works. For example, I never understood why my friends told me it’s dangerous for me to walk (!) all alone (!) from one end of Germering to the other (!) at 3 o’clock in the night (gasp). Than I figured out *their* parents always told them not to walk alone at night, and *my* parents gave me Terry Pratchett books as birthday presents.)

By: PiaPessoa

PiaPessoa — Thu, 01 May 2008 12:39:08 +0000

The following sentence created a university friend many years ago:

Wir sind alle normalverrückt!

(Maybe: We are all normal-crazy)

For me, it means: others who aren´t crazy in some way, are not normal (and not interesting at all). I think it helps, that I´m living in a big city – here there are enough crazy people.

By: Jo

Jo — Thu, 01 May 2008 09:43:37 +0000

I didn’t fit in either, and I really tried, for a long time. I only got happy when I stopped trying to. The thing I’m learning now is that other people don’t like knowing that you’re not the same as them – it makes them uncomfortable.

By: liv

liv — Thu, 01 May 2008 04:36:52 +0000

oh, you. i get it. and we all need time to get it out. my son will be a year longer in kindergarten. honestly? i could not care less.